The Red Light/ Green Light Emotional System
A true but embarrassing story…
A few months back, late at night and overtired, someone left a comment on one of my posts that made me really angry.
I thought they were insulting me and smearing my brand and my blood began to boil.
I was furious and my ego needed to defend itself.
I started to think of all the comebacks and responses I would comment back with to let ‘em have it, as if I were some lawyer preparing a case for a trail.
Luckily for me at the time I was rolling through some mentoring with clients teaching them about the red light/green light system and I decided to sleep on it before responding.
The next morning I woke up, meditated, had a cup of tea and fell back into a relative state of clear thinking and ease.
I decided against commenting back on the post and instead politely emailing the individual to clear the air and make things right (a very different approach to what I had considered doing the night before when I was furious).
I went back to the post to find their comment so that I could reference it in the email and when I did I was both shocked and embarrassed to discover that they had not been insulting me at all…
That they were actually complimenting me.
In my state of tiredness I had misread and misinterpreted the comment.
I was sooooo incredibly grateful in that moment that I hadn’t commented the night before.
Had I done so, I would have likely lost a fan/client and I would have no doubt lost self confidence through the experience.
So here is the basic rule of thumb for the red light/green light system:
RED LIGHT = STOP – Don’t send the email, don’t get on the sales call, don’t make the investment, don’t hire/fire
GREEN LIGHT = GO! – Send the email, get on the sales call, make the investment, start the project, hire/fire
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